Escapism is mental diversion by means of entertainment or recreation, as an “escape” from the perceived unpleasant or banal aspects of daily life. It can also be used as a term to define the actions people take to help relieve persisting feelings of depression or general sadness. – Wikipedia

A local cinema franchise once ran an ad campaign; people were pictured in frustrating situations that they ‘escape’ from by forming mental pictures of themselves at the movies whilst chanting ‘my happy place’.

I frequently have anxiety attacks, especially in the early hours of the morning, when things that are insignificant in the daylight hours appear to be insurmountable problems.  I learned years ago that to focus on my own ‘happy place’ would ease the anxiety within minutes. The last place I would choose is a movie house. With the help of a great therapist, I have learned that escapism is not only beneficial in coping with stress, it is essential. The idea is to visualise oneself in an environment where one has a sense of ‘oneness’ and is involved in pleasurable activity.

It could be taking a walk in a park; it is suggested by the Birkentock and oatmeal brigade that you chant the mantra ‘breathe in the green, breath out the red’, but I have never done this for fear of being thought a nutter by the passing Walk For Life housewives.

Another idea is to get a CD that has the sounds of wind and waves and woodchimes and stuff, and to visualise the heavens and the ocean. But I tried that once and it made me think of the spa I go to for massages. They have a CD like that and all I can think of is if there is a pimple on my bum or worry that I will relax to such an extent that I let off wind …

No, I come to my blog for my dose of an alternate reality. It is a place where goodness and wellbeing reign supreme; this is my happy place. A place where I am, quite literally, ‘in the pink’.


Where is yours?


86 Comments Add yours

  1. SidevieW says:

    i think the blogs is a happy place for many of us.
    (wanders off wondering how being a troll could make some people happy)

    if only we understood while the wild worries wake us up when we are most defenceless………

    1. theonlycin says:

      Looking forward to tomorrow night, I am sure I shall be in a very happy place 😀

  2. sonsothunder says:

    And I pray you are always “Quite in the pink” Hey, the time I saw you chanting you were saying…breath in the positive, and the negative out…Just kidding. Ha, this brings me to mind of asking you ( after seeing your comment on the Hooks latest post ) if you think maybe the elevator lady was in need of some of that “Escapism”?

    (CINDY)”In my experience, adult diaper vending machines should be standard fixtures in elevators”.

    Heh, that was too funny…I told him I personally think elevators should be equipped with a fully stocked mini-bar, and a barcalounger…I’d never reach my floor.
    Bless You

    1. theonlycin says:

      The mini bar is an excellent idea, Paul, you clever thing 🙂

  3. dinahmow says:

    Oh, yes, we all have a “happy place.” (I think the cat in your sidebar is in his happy place! 😉 )

    1. theonlycin says:

      Of course he is, it’s wine-o-clock in his world 🙂

  4. granny1947 says:

    You are looking very good my friend.
    I don’t think I have a virtual happy place.
    The beach does it all for me.
    Love you lots.

    1. theonlycin says:

      And your pics of the beach are so important to me every day xxx

  5. Tes says:

    Honestly, I have a lot of happy places. I’m lucky that way 🙂 For me my mom’s vegetable garden is the most relaxing place on earth 🙂

    1. theonlycin says:

      I don’t blame you, Tes, your mom’s garden is very beautiful 🙂

  6. leigh says:

    Resilience, your strength. And humour, too 🙂 My happy place is when I see the world in colours…

    1. theonlycin says:

      I know and love that about you 🙂

  7. souldipper says:

    Walking, meditating and blogging. Well, then there’s chopping wood, tea with friends, watching my cat, and listening to quality interviews on the radio/internet. Can’t forget the full facial with manicure and pedicure, sailing, skype chats with friends around the world. You know, Cindy, many people may find my life boring, but I really do love my life. There’s always more going on then there’s time for…

    1. theonlycin says:

      You are so right, Amy, lovely comment as always 🙂

  8. diadembooks says:

    I got up early this morning – couldn’t sleep – I have such a burden on my heart and can’t shake it off. Last week my wife had a heart attack. Yesterday I gave instructions to close one of my bank accounts because lately it has constantly been dropping into overdraft purely because of their monthly “maintenance” fees. And then there was a bounced cheque for no reason on another account that the bank itself has no knowledge about. Two lightning strikes in one postal delivery – it has been weighing on my mind. Then I checked my email and received your post about escapism and a happy place – coincidence? To be honest, my only comfort is the knowledge that God is greater than any problem. (My wife is back home from hospital now, restored to health after prayer, so all this anxiety is surely unnecessarily – but being human faith does not always come easily to me.)

    1. theonlycin says:

      I am glad that your wife is better. Take care and be kind to yourself. God bless.

  9. Tandy says:

    it is always good to have a happy place – where people are good and kind and you are loved truly 🙂

    1. theonlycin says:

      Thanks, my beautiful, loyal friend. Love you lots xxx

  10. slpmartin says:

    So glad that you come here…it makes all of our days seem much brighter. 🙂

    1. theonlycin says:

      What a nice thing to say, thank you, Charlie xxx

  11. Hotly Spiced says:

    I agree. We all need to escape and we all need that happy place. My naturopath says that everyone needs at least 10 minutes of uninterrupted escapism time every day to stay perfectly healthy so I’d say you’re on the right track. xx

    1. theonlycin says:

      Cheers to that, HS! 🙂

  12. It may sound odd, but then again, I am a bit odd, making and having a cup of tea is a great form of escapism for me as are my fur children, blogging, crosswords, crocheting and knitting. Of late a good biography/autobiography does the trick too.
    Have a super weekend Cindy.
    🙂 Mandy xo

    1. theonlycin says:

      Thanks, Mandy, enjoy yours too xoxo

  13. Leeswammes says:

    I love reading your blog so your happy place is also a bit my happy place. 🙂

    I don’t put as much of myself in my blog as you do, as a lot of my posts are book reviews. So I guess my happy place is one step before that: the reading of books. Isn’t that the ultimate escapism? I also find going swimming (doing lanes in a swimming pool) makes me forget everything that worries me – I should do that more often!

    1. theonlycin says:

      Funny, Judith, I was just thinking that I want to swim a few laps every day and went outside with good intentions, only to find that my husband has emptied the pool for some reason 😦

      1. Leeswammes says:

        Well! I hope he’ll fill it again? The summer season isn’t over yet, is it? Swimming is SO relaxing!

      2. theonlycin says:

        I think it has sprung a leak and he wants to fix it.

  14. Pseu says:

    Brilliant thongs! My happy place would be somewhere I could get shoes to fit 🙂

    1. theonlycin says:

      I can’t find the thongs, Pseu, it’s driving me batty to try and remember where I stored them.

  15. Mands says:

    Oh Cin, this post is fabulous and I love the photos, thanks so much… and I do remember the ad campaign. *Smile* I have been writing on first my websites… and now my websites and blogs for 13 years, 😉 Wow… I never realised how long it’s been… and how many happy hours I have spent in my ‘happy places’. Thank-you and have an awesome week-end, hugs Mands

    1. theonlycin says:

      13 years, wow. I’ve been at it for almost 5 and just love it. Enjoy your weekend, Mands 🙂

  16. Tilly Bud says:

    I’ve tried the happy place thing and it doesn’t work for me at all, though I would like it to. Not sure if it’s a lack of imagination or I still haven’t found what I’m looking for.

    1. theonlycin says:

      You and Bono both, Tilly, keep on looking 🙂

  17. Mal says:

    I feel so happy and at peace whenever I read your blog…and your pics, always so lovely, give out cheery, positive vibes…thank you, Cindy, and God bless.. 🙂

    1. theonlycin says:

      Thanks Mal, lovely comment 🙂

  18. adeeyoyo says:

    Blogging, that’s for sure. Sometimes writing, if my muse is with me and I feel inspired! Skype chatting also does it for me… and last, but not least, playing my favourite music CDs.

    1. theonlycin says:

      I find Skype a bit intrusive, adee, and tend to stay away from it. Ditto FB chat and Twitter.

  19. suzicate says:

    Just throw me out in the woods with trees and a stream and it’s heaven on earth for me!
    Have you ever tried listening to Native American flute music?…seriously, it takes you this sacred place…peace to you today and every day.

    1. theonlycin says:

      I haven’t heard that, Suzicate, but I brought back a CD from Lantau Island with chants that is very relaxing 🙂

  20. nrhatch says:

    Great thoughts and ideas, Cin. I do love my Ocean Voyages CD when meditating. I also enjoy being a deck slug or a beach bum. 😎

    My happy place usually involves both SUN and WATER.

    1. theonlycin says:

      I am planning to be a deck slug all day today, Nancy, will think of you 🙂

  21. klrs09 says:

    I’ve never given much thought to where my happy place is, but I think, at this moment, I’d have to say it’s my home. Rundown as it is, constantly in a state of renovation, drafty, etc. etc. etc., I love it. It’s where I always want to be when things are going badly. Thanks for a great post Cindy. You look radiant in that photo!

    1. theonlycin says:

      Thank you, Kathy 🙂

  22. bluebee says:

    *laughing* at your spa comment
    Empathize and sympathize on the early-morning anxiety front, Cin. Writing is definitely a great escape as is getting outdoors and spending time with friends who make me laugh

    1. theonlycin says:

      Friends and laughter are the best healers 🙂

  23. bluebee says:

    PS – love your Tretchikoff pendant

    1. theonlycin says:

      A long-ago gift, bluebee, I love Tretchi 🙂

  24. johnlmalone says:

    I too have anxiety attacks ; a previous post of mine indicated this and I remember you writing back and sayinhg you understoI I didn;t realise till now that you have them as well and that is why you understood. Mine when they occur is late in the night.

    My favourite place I go to regularly both physically and psychologically is the beach where I do brisk power walks or swim, like now where it is mid summer.

    1. theonlycin says:

      Anxiety attacks are beastly things, John, I’ve suffered them for much of my life. We learn to roll with the punches, don’t we?

  25. I think I live in an alternate reality. In constant escapism. I fear the day I will have to leave it. Maybe that is why I can’t settle on one particular hobby and am constantly moving from one thing to another. But then again what exactly is wrong with that?

    1. theonlycin says:

      Nothin wrong at all 🙂

  26. Oh I did not see that beautiful photo of you the first time around. So lovely. Chocolate oatmeal cookies = my happy place!

    1. theonlycin says:

      Red wine, mine 🙂

  27. dearrosie says:

    where is my happy place? when I’m out hiking, and especially if it’s a sunny day and the hike takes me near water, flowers and trees

  28. Me too, Cindy.
    That and the Folkestone seaside gaff I’m going to have in the unlikely event that I ever become rich and famous.

    1. theonlycin says:

      Don’t forget my plane ticket when you do 🙂

  29. gigihawaii says:

    oh, I agree with you 100%. I love my blog, writing a post, reading comments — and going to yours and other’s blogs, too, for refreshment and escapism.

    1. theonlycin says:

      I went to yours, Gigi, but couldn’t comment for some reason 😦

  30. well said. i agree w the escapism as something mucho friendly :). i’d also say its a good slap to anxiety which is a mean alternate reality of it’s own. i’m sorry u have been suffering friend. keep on w your courage. hugs

  31. nursemyra says:

    Lying on the chaise longue in my sunny courtyard, book in hand, cat in lap, parrot on shoulder.

    1. theonlycin says:

      Mojito by your side?

  32. Sparkle says:

    My happy place is my home even before I had K. Somehow I always look forward to being at home when ever I am out. The weather could be hot or cold but when I get home I have to sit with my feet up and a cup of tea. family and friends don’t get but it is true that is what I leave a gathering/event to go home and just sit,hehe!

    1. theonlycin says:

      I also like going home, Sparky 🙂

  33. MissChris says:

    At the moment I feel very blogged out and find other ‘happy places’ like playing with mosaics and canvases. I hope I get my blogojo back and more than that I hope life returns to a mangable pace!!! xxxx

    1. theonlycin says:

      I find it hard to keep up with the blogs too, Chris, but I don’t fret about it so much anymore.

  34. bandsmoke says:

    You are looking so well Cindy 🙂 – what a great post, had such a good chuckle about the spa! I think if I had to pick my “happy” place it would be anywhere where I can be quiet in my head (does that make sense – sounds melodramatic). Seems to incorporate doing something with my hands as well – reading/writing/gardening/crossstitch/photography – that sort of stuff! Happy days my friend ❤

    1. theonlycin says:

      Same to you, Bandy 🙂

  35. The Hook says:

    I like to get lost in the multiverse of comic book adventures…

    1. theonlycin says:

      Enjoy every minute, Hookster 🙂

  36. Tammy says:

    I would like to be a part of the birkenstock and oatmeal brigade!

  37. My blog is my happy place too.. 🙂

    1. theonlycin says:

      At the moment I wish I had more time to spend blogging *sigh* xxx

  38. Long time no comment! Shame on me! I love the photo of you! You look mahvelous, dahlink! You blog has always been a happy place – contrary to mine yesterday, which, it turns out was quite depressing – but not intentionally so! Blame it on the synchronicity of the calendar on Januray 27!

    Your worry that you might “cut the cheese” at the day spa made me laugh! Ashley was telling me today after his massage (he gets one once a week) that he is afraid to relax completely because he’s feels the same thing will happen to him! 😆 Great minds, Cin – great minds – you and my hubs!

    1. theonlycin says:

      Haha, go Ashley 😀

  39. colonialist says:

    I have to guard against spending too much time in this one – I have others which should have my input if they are going to translate into books or music!

    1. theonlycin says:

      My problem too, Col!

  40. Tokeloshe says:

    A-h-h, that warms me up!
    Love your Trechie necklace 😉
    Jy lyk pragtig skattie!

    1. theonlycin says:

      Dankie Maatjie 🙂

  41. sonsothunder says:

    Hope you are doing well, we miss you around the “Bloggerhood”,..Bless You

  42. Jamie Dedes says:

    Love the pretty in pinkness of your blog now, Cindy.

    Early morning anxiety attacks: my mom and I both had/have them. I call them the morning terrors. 😦

  43. Tandy says:

    I love when you are in a happy place!

    1. theonlycin says:

      Me too, I plan to be more often, I am determined 🙂

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