ANTICIPATING HEDONISM

“I have no profession. My attitude – quite indefensible – is that, if I trouble no one, I may do as I like. It is, I dare say, an example of my decadence.” The character Cecil Vyse, from EM Forster’s “A room with a view”.

In her introduction to the weekend theme, ANTICIPATION, Sidey writes about the eagerness with which the ‘formally employed’ look forward to weekends. As a freelancer, my weeks don’t have this structure; my life ‘is one’ and I work when I have assignments, 7 days a week. However, at this time of the year, I am idle. Things have ground to a halt pending the start of the holidays, and weekends are my own. With the ballet season over, even my parental-taxi-service is no longer needed …
This weekend I am home alone; something my friends find alarming. They besiege me with invitations to visit and entreaties to ‘get out of the house’. They don’t understand how I delight in the prospect of 48 hours in which to indulge in indefensible hedonism.
I can take a salad out into the garden and pick at it while I dead-head the roses, slowly; so slowly that the avocado will turn brown in the heat.


If I want to, I can doze all afternoon under an umbrella on a lawn chair, dipping into a book from time to time. I can have a sundowner in the pyjamas I haven’t changed out of all day, if that is what I want.


I could break all the rules and let the dogs on the bed while I read until 4am and eat blueberry muffins that will leave crumbs on the sheets …


But I don’t do these things. I am a good girl, raised Methodist. The bed is neatly made by7am (sans dog hairs), there’s a pot of tomato sauce simmering on the stove for bulk-freezing later and I am off to tidy my linen cupboard. The devil, they say, makes work for idle hands.

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81 Comments Add yours

  1. inzwakazi says:

    So when do us, who are free only on weekends get to see you?

    1. theonlycin says:

      Maybe next weekend 😀

  2. I want to join you for sundowners in my pjs! xxx

    1. theonlycin says:

      Perhaps we’ll have a pyjama party one day 😀

  3. leigh says:

    Kindly do these indulgent things as soon as possible 😉

    1. theonlycin says:

      All right, seeing as you command it 😉

  4. Rachelle says:

    I’ll also join you. I love spending days in my PJ’s, it make “being home” more real when you look down and see fluffly slippers and moo-cow pajamas. What a dream weekend!!

    1. theonlycin says:

      Yes, it is kind of dreamy 😀

  5. Ek kom al affe reg met laat lê en lees maar nes jy, is die bed netjies opgemaak, die muffins word van ‘n bordjie afge-eet en die slaai binne die tyd wat ‘n ete moet neem.

    Eish.

    Geniet jou me-time!!

    1. theonlycin says:

      Ek sal, dankie Mevrou 🙂

  6. Sue Green says:

    Enjoy the weekend, lovely pics Cinders.

  7. Tes says:

    You’ve just make me wanna have an indulgent vacation. I’ve just realize not having the permanent jobs make me even more busy…. and I want blueberry muffin, but no time to bake 😦

    1. theonlycin says:

      Aw, sorry Tes, maybe this afternoon while Little One naps?

  8. Naomi says:

    ENJOY every moment, Cindy…just as I’ve enjoyed every moment of this post! Love the way you write and your photo’s are gorgeous! As for me, Dave constantly curbs my non-hedonist tendencies, so our bed is frequently scattered with dog hair and the like 😀

    1. theonlycin says:

      Thank you, Naomi 🙂 (I am sure you can’t resist the dog on the bed *smile*)

  9. Tandy says:

    ha! and Molly has learnt to love sleeping on the bed *wonders why*. Have a super weekend xxx

    1. theonlycin says:

      Molly is the world’s best bed partner. Enjoy your weekend too 🙂

  10. Leeswammes says:

    Oh, let your hair down a bit Cindy and enjoy the freedom! 🙂

    1. theonlycin says:

      If you insist, Judith … 😉

      1. Colleen says:

        What hair???? Hehehe xxx

      2. Leeswammes says:

        Oh, true, Colleen. And from the looks of your picture you won’t be letting any hair down soon, either. 🙂

  11. hotlyspiced says:

    I was also brought up a Methodist – no sleep-ins allowed and definitely no time for idle hands.

    1. theonlycin says:

      Absolutely … idle hands were out 😉

  12. suzicate says:

    Ha, that last paragraph says it for me….I fight that urge to do all and just laze for the day and I was somewhat successful the Sunday before last….oh, I still cleaned etc…but at my leisure. I must say it was a most wonderful day! I hope you enjoy your 48 hours to do as your heart desires.

    1. theonlycin says:

      So far I am loving it, SuziCate 🙂

  13. MissChris says:

    I am also Methodist but advice – let go – even if it is just once!! It is a wonderful feeling!

    1. theonlycin says:

      Yee-hah! Getting me some nekkid sunshine, Chris, letting go 🙂

  14. SidevieW says:

    Goodness I’d be so impressed, except it’s all things you like.

    I too love my ‘me time’, but not enough of that this weekend, bgardener and someone to help re-do doors and window frames. One of these weeks my home will have caught up again.

    1. theonlycin says:

      And then you will feel so happy 🙂

  15. Mal says:

    Oh, Cindy, I just love the way you write…it oozes warmth and hospitality…so I’m popping over right now to enjoy the beautiful roses (indeed, you had promised me more of them, remember?) and have a lazy, lazy day… Ah, bliss! 😉

    1. theonlycin says:

      That is a lovely compliment, thank you Mal 😀

  16. klrs09 says:

    I love the hedonistic tone of the first part of your blog — wouldn’t we all love to have such days? Enjoy them when they come. Have a lovely weekend.

    1. theonlycin says:

      Thanks Kathy, I will 🙂

  17. Every now and again those days are desperately called for 😉 Hope the weather plays along, but whatever you do – HAVE FUN!

    1. theonlycin says:

      The weather is just perfect, Lee 🙂

  18. nrhatch says:

    I want to come to your PJ Party! 😀

    1. theonlycin says:

      On yer bike then, Lass 🙂

  19. Sparkle says:

    Hi Cin, I managed to get the Hyatt Regency and the route is convenient for everyone to and from. The westcliff is fully booked from Thursdays. I was hoping to get one of yours to have at least two choices. But I think we will be fine.
    Enjoy your blissfull weekend dear one!

    1. theonlycin says:

      Sorry Sparky, my short-term memory is shot at the moment. The Hyatt will be a real treat!

  20. Spectra says:

    Thank you for these alluring luxurious relaxation ideas… I need to do more of these hedonistic things with my free time, which is all the time. I’m a bit of an expert, and was thinking of writing a post on that theme one day. The only time I make the bed is when new sheets are applied. And cooking is not a required duty here; indeed, it is one of my not-so-guilty pleasures. Your muffins look divine! And sitting under an umbrella reading…how luscious!

    1. theonlycin says:

      You go, Spectra, indulge yourself 🙂

  21. bluebee says:

    Sheesh! Still lying in bed at almost 9am catching up on blogs and drinking coffee brought to me by Masterchef Man, I was feeling guiltless solidarity at the start of this post, but there’s that unexpected ending! Hmmph – now am feeling suitably chastised and am getting up

    1. theonlycin says:

      Oh bluebee, relax and enjoy yourself, you have my permission 😉

  22. slpmartin says:

    I often wondered about those people who cannot under any circumstance be alone or without someone talking to them on their cellphone….I adore my private time…glad I’m not the only one…however…I shall not compare myself when it comes to such virtuous behaviors as yours…I might be more compelled to have a glass of wine and some brie while reading…alas we cannot all be saints. 😉

    1. theonlycin says:

      Who’s a saint, Charlie? I’m having a grilled cheese sandwich and a glass of cider 😉

  23. Oh, I am envious. The remote control all to oneself: watching Jane Eyre back to back episodes for nine hours at a time, punctuated only by wild Autumn dog walks and trips to the kitchen for snacks; I am getting hopelessly carried away.
    I love that quote of sniffy Cecil’s. So much he said made sense but he didn’t have the passion to back it up satisfactorily….
    Have a wonderful weekend, Cindy.

    1. theonlycin says:

      The remote stayed up a bit, not too late, the BBC’s Hairy Bikers and James Martin. It was grand 🙂

  24. ceciliag says:

    Oh thank you Cindy, more roses! I love your roses. I have spent a good deal of my life without adult company and i still LOVE it. the weekends that John goes away which are seldom, i lay about like a big warm sun drenched rock. And not having to cook FOR someone is such a relief sometimes..c

    1. theonlycin says:

      Enjoy the roses, Cecilia, I will try to keep them coming 🙂

  25. Having the house to yourself is a wonderful thing! I’m with you! As muych as i love haing Hubs around, there is soimething nice about having the chance to do all or nothing.

    That said, Cin – all your food looks good except for one thing: those tomatoes look like they were strip mined in Texas. . .(a definite winter-tomato, hot-house look. . .). 😆

    1. theonlycin says:

      No Paula, they are genuine farm tomatoes, I just like them before they’re too ripe 🙂

  26. libraryscene says:

    Enjoy your space and spread your wings a bit…perhaps do one thing that has been in the back of your mind but has eluded you due to time, energy, or whatnot. If you do, hope you blog the adventure. Cheers ~

    1. theonlycin says:

      Well, I did paint my nails yellow … 😉

  27. souldipper says:

    I would wither without my alone time to refresh my batteries. I don’t know how people live without it. Some people in my life live running and when they don’t have to, they don’t remember how to be still.

    1. theonlycin says:

      I know people like that too, Amy!

  28. Tilly Bud says:

    Ballet has a season?

    1. theonlycin says:

      The eisteddfod season, Tilly, it can get quite crazy 🙂

  29. Colleen says:

    Sounds wonderful my friend, make the most of it and enjoy some relaxing hedonistic practices while doing that which you feel you have to do. I love what souldipper said up there. It is very true. Your roses are just beautiful. And such beautiful photos and food! Love you xxx

    1. theonlycin says:

      Love you too, special lady 🙂 xxx

  30. Pseu says:

    Beautiful roses.

    1. theonlycin says:

      Thanks Pseu, I wish I had more bushes 🙂

  31. As hard as you work and as disciplined as you are, you deserve it. 🙂

    1. theonlycin says:

      Thank you, Linda, that is very kind 🙂

  32. dearrosie says:

    Your roses are the best!

    I’m spending the weekend with a girlfriend in her beautiful home in Santa Barbara. It’s 1 pm and we’re both still in our jammies. As soon as I finish here we’re going to walk down the road to the beach. It’s a blue sunny day – I think in the 60’s..

    You’re all welcome to join us…

  33. The Hook says:

    Your life – and diet – sound pretty sweet to me!

    1. theonlycin says:

      Very sweet, Hookster 🙂

  34. Tokeloshe says:

    Great photos!
    Love your Roses;-)

  35. You are a real good girl!! I would love to spent all day in my pj’s!!

    1. theonlycin says:

      I’ve had lots of pj days lately, spoiling myself 🙂

  36. adeeyoyo says:

    Good grief, this one slipped by when I wasn’t looking. Enjoy your day, Cindy. Sit as long as you want to and dream the time away. After all, why not.

    1. theonlycin says:

      Why not, indeed, adee!

  37. The sheer bliss of some time to do exactly what you want!! And then – like you – I’ll also spend the time doing what I am supposed to do…

    I love your roses!!

    1. theonlycin says:

      Thanks Fired Up 🙂

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  39. Jamie Dedes says:

    With roses like that, it hardly matters what we do with the day. It will be good …

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