An invention has to make sense in the world it finishes in, not in the world it started. Tim O’Reilly
This holds true about marriage; that heady, romantic world of the early days in a relationship cannot be sustained. Washing machines, homeloans, insurance policies and children’s school routines intrude and all but obliterate the memories of the days of wine and roses. Occasions must be invented to rekindle old fires.
With experience of this, I have come to give the following stock warning to every bride on the eve of her wedding:
If you give up your independence to share your life with someone, it should be a state of existence that improves on being single. Sometimes, not all the time of course, but sometimes when you’re sitting down to breakfast opposite each other or getting into a car together or just lying in each other’s arms, you should catch your breath and think:
Being with this person here and now is what lends reason to and makes logic of everything else in the world.
My thoughts on this come as a result of the online competitions happening at the moment; many wineries are giving away lovely products to people who come up with the most romantic meals.
My husband doesn’t have a romantic bone in his body, but I would love to take up this challenge. Being away from my kitchen day after day, as I currently am, I am beginning to grieve for it.
I shall have to invent a reason for a formal dinner; a rose-strewn table and some chocolate-dipped strawberries.
The man will, no doubt, think I have gone insane …
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