One of my friends was set upon by a blog troll yesterday and I was driven to much introspection overnight on the dynamic of this cyber society we inhabit.

“… the Internet relies solely on words. Words – in my opinion-which can be manipulated and misinterpreted to suit our own agenda …

One could also argue that by stripping interaction to its bare minimum – words- one is able to effectively strip communication down to its purest , lest judgemental form. The Internet allows use to converse in earnest without the hindrance of visual stimuli to distort meaning and assign all manner of preconceived ideas and characteristics on the messenger.” Lulu Vegas – Letterdash blogger

“I once thought that the emphatic nature of words ensured truth.

If I could find the right words, then with the proper will I could by assertion write all that was true.  I have since learned that words are only as valid as the mind that chooses them, so that of essence all prose is a form of deception.  To choose too carefully is to become pedantic, closing the imagination to wider visions, yet to err the other way is to invite anarchy into one’s mind.  If I am to reveal myself then I prefer to do so by my choices, rather than by my accidents.  Some might say that such accidents are the product of an unconscious mind, and thus inherently interesting, but as I write this I am warned by what is to follow.

Much is unclear.

At this outset I need that tedious quality of pedanticism.  I have to choose my words with care.  I want to be sure.” Christopher Priest – The Affirmation

And a little footnote, my further thoughts on internet communications and – more specifically – blogging:

Let’s look for a minute at a snapshot of a garden;

Tall, strong and deep-rooted trees, sturdy little shrubs, frivolous and pretty flowers.

Insidious alien invaders, deadly nightshades and indefatigable creepers.

Slugs and spiders, and snakes in the grass …


Me?  I hope that I am a tree, standing a little aside.  My roots unencumbered by weeds, or mildew or rot.  Perhaps a passerby will choose to pick a piece of fruit.  Or not.

It’s taken me a while to get to the point of this post, but I guess what I want to say in answer to the question of Internet communications is, to paraphrase Mister Shakespeare; ‘to thine own self be sincere’

Don’t pander and toady.

And, above all, have fun.


40 Comments Add yours

  1. thysleroux says:

    This is an extremely well written post.

    You take a few well thought out turns to arrive at a sensible conclusion.

    I agree, we should just have fun amongst other things.

    I’ve written extensively about trolls and to a degree they can only “survive” online by leeching off other’s words and thriving on reaction.
    By themselves they are incapable of actually creating something new and worthy of attention.

    Once we realize that they are harmless.

    1. theonlycin says:

      Thank you Thys, they are best ignored.

  2. Tandy says:

    the internet is such a powerful tool! Have a super day today 🙂

    1. theonlycin says:

      Good wishes for a good day right back at you, Tandy.

  3. Madmom says:

    To me it’s about respect for self and for others. I always bear that in mind when commenting on a post.

    1. theonlycin says:

      You set a fine example, always, Madmom.

  4. leigh says:

    Interesting. Words are powerful, even in the ether.

      1. leigh says:

        Exactly 🙂

  5. Adeeyoyo says:

    So true, respect for self and others is important, which includes being true to one’s self. Well said, Cindy!

    1. theonlycin says:

      Thanks and respect, adee 🙂

  6. that is full of such good stuff, i need to revisit it.

    i think the essence is be true to yourself. (or at least for me)

    what about those people who are trying out some new persona they would like to be? how does that fit in?

    Oh damn! life is so complicated

    1. theonlycin says:

      Why would someone want to be a dark persona who’s sole intention is to hurt people?

  7. MissChris says:

    Yes respect. And as one gets to know other bloggers you know who you can banter with or not (mostly) and if you offend – be gracious enough to apologize. but those irritating little buzzers that just like to cause kak are beyond me!

    1. theonlycin says:

      And they seem to stress their cowardice by attacking those who are vulnerable.

      1. MissChris says:


  8. Baglady says:

    Well-written and thought provoking, Cindy.

    1. theonlycin says:

      Thanks, I love it when you pop in here to visit 😀

  9. buttercup600 says:

    Just so sad that this still happens on a regular basis…being true to one’s self and to others sharing space here…how hard can it be?…I am blown away about this written work of yours Cindy…well said my dearest friend. Love you lots xxx

    1. theonlycin says:

      Thanks Honey, love you too.

    1. theonlycin says:

      Aw thanks aardie 😀

  10. Excellent, Cin! And as I have said in earlier posts – it is an issue of hermeneutics. Because, no matter what we write, how one reads and interprets the written word is totally subjective, and never the same from one person to the next. It makes all writers and readers multi-lingual!

    1. theonlycin says:

      Very good comment, Paula 😀

  11. suzicate says:

    Excellent post, Cindy. Bottom line is respect. I am not sure why people go off on others in blogosphere, a spirit of meaness and power hungry, perhaps? At any rate, it is just plain wrong. As mother says, If you can’t say something nice, say nothing at all!

    1. theonlycin says:

      And we all know, Mother is always right 😀

  12. slpmartin says:

    The internet is just another page to be written upon…and like all pages the reader needs think about what they have read and judge it with the mind’s eye….enjoyed your post.

    1. theonlycin says:

      I think it’s key to exercise caution when choosing with whom to engage as well.

  13. nrhatch says:

    Some “trolls” really are trolling about with the sole intent of upsetting the apple carts of others.

    But . . . sometimes people apply the label “troll” in haste to justify their decision to remain close-minded rather than engaging in actual discourse with someone of divergent views.

    And, Cin, you are indeed a tall stately tree full of fruit . . . except, on occasion, when you choose to be a pretty flower (wearing red shoes) instead. 🙂

    1. theonlycin says:

      In this instance, Nancy, I use the word to describe people who do not have a blog of their own, but have a profile for the sole purpose of hurling abuse at bloggers; abuse like insults, pornographic comment and the like.

      And why thank you for the tree/ flower comment, likewise Ma’am 🙂

    2. nrhatch says:

      One reason I love WordPress is that it does a good job of trapping spam in its filter. Most of the pornographic and abusive comments never see the light of day.

      When in doubt, I go check the blog in question to see if the blogger is “for real.” I did that yesterday after my Blog Hole post because someone made a rather nasty observation about Lewis Carroll. When I got to his blog, I found 3 articles, none of them very good, and decided to TRASH his comment rather than post it.

      1. theonlycin says:

        Yes, I like the trashing option too 🙂

  14. gospelwriter says:

    Thank you for this well-considered post. I think every now and then of the downside of posting freely – but, I’m no longer that person who remains mute for fear of being misunderstood or taken advantage of.

    Me? I hope that I am a tree, standing a little aside. My roots unencumbered by weeds, or mildew or rot. Perhaps a passerby will choose to pick a piece of fruit. Or not.

    That’s how I think of you – and of myself, as well.

    1. theonlycin says:

      I couldn’t say it better 😀

  15. Naomi says:

    Most thought-provoking, thank you, Cindy. Here’s to the fun, for sure! …love that rose pic too 🙂

  16. Lyndatjie says:

    If you give somebody power – they become powerful. The same applies to words. If your words speak to us then we will feel the impact of it in our hearts and mind. If we allow trolls to “speak” to us in the same way then we need to look at why we allow it. Now where is a good flyswatter when you need it.

    1. theonlycin says:

      Ignoring and deleting is a very effective flyswatter 🙂

  17. Jamie Dedes says:

    What a well-considered and well-written post, Cindy. And good call at the end. Thanks!

    1. theonlycin says:

      You’re welcome, thanks for reading Jamie!

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