I’m taking a girl to lunch today, a grown-up outing, to celebrate her 12th birthday. We will eat out  in the winter sunshine, at that stalwart establishment in Parktown; Mike’s Kitchen, which was my playground in my twenties, long before I met her father. Long before I dreamed of one day becoming the mother of a shooting star named Chelsea.

I will make her laugh with a funny story about how, during my pregnancy I had a scan, her dad and sister-in-waiting, Che, came along. Looking at the picture on the radiographer’s screen, Alan exclaimed “Look at the size of that willie, that’s my son in there, for sure!” And the baby growing in my tummy was promptly given a name: Zac.

We’d been very careful to make sure that Che never felt threatened that her father was going to have another child, and I made sure that she was included throughout the pregnancy. Her mother was working on her career, so I spent a lot of after-school time with Che.

As the time went by, I began to feel strongly that my baby was a girl and began to cast about for names I felt would fit this new child when she came into the world. My first choice was Daisy, but it was vetoed by both Alan and Che as a name suitable only to cows and poodles. I told Che she would have the final say.

After weeks of suggestions we’d rejected Bronwyn, Allison, Gabby, Jeanine … and endless list of girls I couldn’t picture, we were sitting in the dentist’s waiting room one afternoon (Che had a toothache) and I suggested Chelsea. “I’ve never heard that name” said Che. Out of nowhere, I had a stroke of genius and took a pen and notebook from my bag.

“It’s like this” I said, and began to write as I explained:

“First we had CHE;
And then we gave her a
L = little
S = sister
E = ever
A = after


And so it was settled.
And sisters they are, there’s no doubt about it, despite springing from different wombs.


58 Comments Add yours

  1. JustMe says:


    Enjoy your lunch 😀

    1. theonlycin says:

      Will do, thanks my friend 🙂

  2. supagran says:

    Lovely post! Have a great lunch, I’m meeting Puppycat for lunch.

    1. theonlycin says:

      Have a good one Supa, don’t talk about bloggers!

      1. JustMe says:

        What’s the use of having a mini-mob then?? LOL

      2. theonlycin says:

        OK then JM … just don’t say the ‘get over yourself’ thing. Mind you that is Supa’s line …

  3. leigh says:


    1. theonlycin says:

      ringraziarla 🙂

  4. MaanKind says:

    What a wonderful story, Cin!

    1. theonlycin says:

      Thanks Trisa 🙂

  5. Rosemary says:

    What a wonderful story. My one step son was a girl, until he was born – lucky they had a name which they could use for both Shannon.
    Have a wonderful celebration.

    1. theonlycin says:

      Shannon is the name of my best friend’s daughter 🙂

  6. Krokodil says:

    What a beautiful story! Enjoy the day, Cin!

  7. kangoo says:

    Hi OC,
    What a great way to come up with a name, big sis must have been proud.
    Our little miss (12ys) became a women yesterday. When C told me this, i was embarressed and speachless. However, i did congratulate this morning and her little face lit up with joy! *me thinking to myself* Joy! how can anyone be joyful other this! I am only too pleased to come to an end, i waited blady long enough……
    take care

    1. theonlycin says:

      Yep, ‘joy’ now, but she doesn’t realise what lies ahead. Not looking forward to that happening to mine 😦

      1. Madmom says:

        Happened to mine at 11. Eek! But she took it all in her stride.

      2. theonlycin says:

        Shucks, they’re starting younger and younger. Better prepare mine.

  8. Santana says:

    Enjoy the day Amica Mia xoxoxo

    1. theonlycin says:

      Santana, where have you been my friend???

  9. granny1947 says:

    Have a great bonding lunch!

    1. theonlycin says:

      Will do granny, doubt I’ll be allowed to have wine 😦

  10. Maryke says:

    This is so sweet Cin! What a wise woman you are!

    1. theonlycin says:

      Hehehe Maryke, thanks 🙂

  11. MissChris says:

    You made me misty eyed again!! What a wonderful special name she has!!

    Enjoy your big girl lunch – I remember that Mikes so well too – just did not know it was still open!!

    1. theonlycin says:

      It’s exactly the same, a very reliable venue.

  12. Ebony&Ivory says:

    So special and so so sweet. Two gorgeous girls. You have always been a genius!

    1. theonlycin says:

      lol E&I, I have done some very stupid things in my time 🙂

  13. Poisonberry says:

    Oi!! this made me tear up something awful Cin, it’s soo beautiful 🙂

    1. theonlycin says:

      Dankie Meisie 🙂

  14. Madmom says:

    Lovely post. Have a wonderful time.

    1. theonlycin says:

      Thanks Madmom, I hope her schoolday was good and she’s not cranky 😦

  15. adeeyoyo says:

    Lovely way to choose her name! They look very alike – bone structure like Dad? Enjoy your celebration. 😀

    1. theonlycin says:

      Yes and no, it’s strange, maybe he just likes woman with a certain look?

      1. adeeyoyo says:

        Hope you’re feeling better soon (ref Col’s post). (d)

      2. theonlycin says:

        I took some meds and am coping, thanks adee.

  16. nrhatch says:

    Your Chelsea is lucky to have you . . . and to be Che’s little sister every after.

    Wonderful post. Hope lunch is/was grand! : )

    1. theonlycin says:

      The food was OK Nancy, but the company was great 🙂

  17. Oh Cin, what a lovely post. My mom wanted to name me Avril, but my dad went out and registered me with the name I have today. As for Daisy – I don’t see a cow or a poodle, but I definitely see a duck 😀 Hope lunch was good!

    1. theonlycin says:

      Your name is perfect for you, can’t imagine you as an Avril!

  18. suzicate says:

    What a lovely story! Have a fabulous lunch. And that was purely lovely and ingenius in how you presented the name to
    Che, and a special story to Chelsea.

    1. theonlycin says:

      Ta muchly suzicate.

  19. jadepaloma says:

    Allah bless them both, and you! What a beautiful family.

  20. buttercup600 says:

    How I just love the name..hope you have/had a wonderful I miss Mike’s lord…ribs out of this world…been living in Australia now for 10 years and will always love my place of birth!! Nice to meecha Cindy~Amandax

    1. theonlycin says:

      Likewise Amanda, on my way to visit your blog.

  21. Jingle says:

    love the image, very dynamic and fun!

    1. theonlycin says:

      Bless you Jingle 🙂

  22. brian says:

    cool story behind the name…hope you had a great lunch…

    1. theonlycin says:

      The food was OK Brian, my date was entertaining 🙂

  23. rosa robinson says:

    Can’t believe I met you when you were 7 months pregnant, with this beautiful Creature. Prima Ballerina, musical, gorgeous, what more could a parent ask for? Love and hugs…xx

  24. theonlycin says:

    Yay for visiting my blog Rosa, thanks so much. And how time flies hey?

  25. izziedarling says:

    You write so well and this is a beautiful example.

  26. I really like your mini ode to Mike’s Kitchen Parktown. They were our company’s playground and it’s very sad that were moving. Good times…

    1. theonlycin says:

      I could kill for one of their steaks right now!

      1. Ja. Very much so. I also got quite lyrical about those 🙂

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