A long time ago, I’m shocked to realise that it’s close on twenty years now; I fled an unhappy marriage in the middle of the night and went to the home of good friends to spend a sleepless night in their spare bedroom.

In the morning, I listened to their comfortable ritual;

sounds of a bed being made and clothing picked up,

the click of an electric kettle switching off,

dog pellets falling into a bowl…

A song came on the radio and they immediately began to sing along softly. Aruba, Jamaica ooo I wanna take you, Bermuda, Bahamas come on pretty mama, Key Largo, Montego baby why don’t we go …  I felt so unhappy for myself; filled with dread at the practical details that lay ahead to dismantle life as I had known it, and I envied them their easy happiness.

I just heard the song again and recalled my sad shock when I heard, years later, that they had divorced. 

Things aren’t always what they seem.


17 Comments Add yours

  1. niels says:

    Things are never what they seem, are they… I mean, we grow in different directions… or we forget to care if the other one is okay.

    I would like to believe that the woman i am with now is the one I will stay with for the rest of my life… but I know it will take major effort from both of us.

    1. theonlycin says:

      You’re a match made in heaven Niels, I wouldn’t worry.

  2. Heather says:

    Lovely post. And ain’t in the truth.

    1. theonlycin says:

      Hello Heather 🙂

  3. schakily says:

    Yup, we can only give our all, and hope that the other person cares enough to give their all too.

    1. theonlycin says:

      I left a coment for you earlier, but it seems to have disappeared ….

  4. her says:

    Life is very unpredictable

  5. Luddite Lass says:

    Beautifully written. Yes, the reality behind the veneer, the private truth behind the public face are often at odds.

  6. Adeeyoyo says:

    Unfortunately things have turned on their heads, divorce which used to be the exception is now becoming the rule.

    1. theonlycin says:

      Yes, it’s so sad.

  7. granny1947 says:

    Ain’t that the truth!!!!

    1. theonlycin says:

      Can’t find your page …

  8. Tokeloshe says:


    Excellent as always.


    1. theonlycin says:

      Hey Tok, great to see you!

  9. Krokodil says:

    Just the other day I had to hear again: but you were the perfect couple!!

    (Yeah?? Said who?)

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